Marriage Monday: Starting a Husband-Wife Book Club

A few weeks ago, God gave Crystal and I what has turned out to be a very helpful idea: the Crystal and Dave Book Club.

The concept is simple: each evening, for however long you can, you and your spouse sit down and read-aloud a book together. If the phrase “read aloud” sounds grating, you’re not alone: the idea didn’t thrill me, either. Thankfully, the first book from our “unread books” shelf that we decided to read together, The 5 Love Languages, was a single copy, and, since we just wanted to try this idea out, I began reading the first chapter to Crystal while she fed our daughter.

Surprisingly, we found that we liked the read-aloud format, because:

  1. It “forced” us to spend time together. We enjoy spending time with each other, but during the times that we normally read together now (car rides, baby feedings, or just relaxing together after the baby goes to sleep), we normally wander off into our to-do lists, or we make those phone calls we’ve been wanting to make, or whatever. The point is, we tend to do urgent things rather than the important work of being together regularly.
  2. Instead of studying a chapter at a time separately and then coming together and discussing it, read-aloud kills two birds with one stone. We don’t have to study under pressure and then find time to answer some pre-made discussion questions (an activity that more often than not turns into a mess for us). Instead, we just read aloud to each other, and when someone hears something they want to underline, we underline it, and when someone has something to say, we say it.
  3. Because of the fairly simple content of The Five Love Languages, comprehension is possible even for a non-auditory learner like me.

Whether this sounds like a good idea to you or not, Crystal and I have discovered that, for many matters in marriage, you can’t count an idea out until you’ve tried it.

Future books on our to-read list:
The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict

Uprooting Anger: Biblical Help For a Common Problem

Sacred Marriage

Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage


About davestuartjr
Dave Stuart Jr. is a full-time teacher who writes about becoming better, saner teachers at He is a follower of Jesus Christ, a husband to Crystal, and a father to Hadassah, Laura, and Marlena.

One Response to Marriage Monday: Starting a Husband-Wife Book Club

  1. Pingback: Marriage Monday Book Review: The Five Love Languages « The Other Criminal

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